Since we’re doing life updates I was hoping that I would be able to share some pictures of our apartment this week but unfortunately our furniture still hasn’t arrived so mostly what I would be showing you is a big empty room. Our couch and table and desk, all of the big items, are set to arrive this afternoon so hopefully soon we can stop eating off of the floor. As romantic as having a picnic for every meal sounds, it gets old pretty quickly.
Something that I’ve been thinking about ever since we’ve arrived here is getting to know people and how to make friends in a new city as an adult. Growing up I’ve never had trouble making friends, being in class together, playing on sports teams, and in college, living together, made it all very easy. I think that once you’re out of school it becomes increasingly difficult. You don’t have the shared experiences or forced interaction with people your own age that ignite friendships. So far in my experience, I’ve made some new friends through work but it’s much more rare to find a group of people who have the same life experience and are working towards the same goal. Also, these relationships became much harder to maintain after leaving each position.
I thought maybe it was just me who was worrying about this. The obvious answer seems to be, just get out and do something, be outgoing- but really, easier said than done. So, I did a bit of research (googled) this topic to see what other people had to say, and the results were very telling. Everyone from popular magazines to national newspapers and all of the blogs in-between have covered the topic. I guess it must be something that causes anxiety for many people. What do you guys think? Have you made many friends since graduating? Do you feel any desire to make grown up friends, or anxiety about it? It’s funny how something that came so effortlessly as kids suddenly seems like a chore.